Ultimate Valentine’s or Anniversary Gift for your Lady

Just as remembering the "Most Romantic Day" of her life - her wedding day - can go a long way towards helping boost your marriage. Spending thought and time can make a humdrum relationship into something amazing. Dotting your relationship with traditional celebrations of the “romance” milestones adds years to that special bond and keeps the knots tied tightly.

So where to start…whether it’s Valentine’s Day or your anniversary, take a moment to experience her dream, see where your ideas take you.

Many girls dream of their wedding day, they create fantasies that promote themselves to the role of “princess for a day”. Most, eventually, reach at least a modicum of the dream but then life happens…the day to day struggles, pressures, and joys change the girlhood fantasies into more sophisticated visions, but the fantasy is still about being treated like royalty. The ultimate romantic gift pays homage to that development.

My princess fantasies and sophisticated visions revolve around gorgeous lingerie. Now before your mind wanders too far – I’m talking drop dead, elegant silk and lace - sophisticated, graceful lingerie: peignoir sets are always first and foremost, but also teddies’ and undergarments made with lots of Italian lace, beautiful silk and the smoothest of satins are all important. We aren’t talking sex. We aren’t talking your fantasies, we’re talking fairy-tales and Sophia Loren. We’re talking swirling romance. She was beautiful to you when you married her or began this incredible relationship and she’s still the star of your heart no matter what life difficulties have come to pass. Celebrate her fantasies! Give her that feeling of royalty.

Wearing beautiful lingerie always makes a woman feel like a princess even if she’s wearing combat boots, construction gear, a business suit or sweat pants on a daily basis. So lingerie is a good place to start. But making the most of the romance, just like she created it in her fantasy or with her wedding, is more than just perfect lingerie. It all starts with the experience.

Shopping in specialty boutiques with plush carpeting, elegantly quiet surroundings and staff that still knows what service is all about elevates the gift to perfect romance status. (This “ain’t” Victoria’s Secret, guys. Think about the shopping scene from Pretty Woman.) Obviously you’ll find these boutiques in major metropolitan areas but amazingly almost every city has a few tucked away somewhere – you just have to look. This is an experience that doesn’t cost thousands, elegant lingerie can be bought for under $100 but you’ll reap benefits many times over for taking the time to set up a royal experience. Talk to the ladies at the boutique, tell them what you are trying to do – any boutique worth their advertising will be thrilled to help you create a day of enchantment.

Now, turn it into the ultimate gift by taking it to the ultimate experience. Purchase a half day at a local spa and add it to the gift certificate from the local lingerie boutique. Plan a special breakfast for the day of the event, give her the gift along with a single rose and watch her spirits soar. Don’t forget to take off early and plan a romantic dinner – it doesn’t matter if the dinner is at home (prepared by you) or a dinner out. Your goal is to create a day of fascination, a princess experience! And don’t forget about yourself. You took a lot of time getting ready for your first dates and on your wedding day preparing for your bride to be, do the same on this special day. Think about your appearance, think about what you want to say to her, think about your life together. Turn your thoughts into dinner talk. Remembering, planning, changing gears if necessary will put the pinnacle on the most wonderful day of your lives.

Hire a limo service to handle the transportation for her for the day.

Need to spend a little less – make the spa experience your own, just don’t give up the boutique experience. Give her a foot soak and pedicure yourself. Plan a body soak with candles, elegant chocolate bites and champagne. Give her a back massage with wonderful oils picked up in local import stores. It’s all about togetherness and time away in a fairy-tale environment.

There are many different lists and all a bit different but this one seems to span the whole spectrum

First: Paper - framed pictures of your time together

Second: Cotton - European sheet sets boxed together with bags of pink fluffy cotton candy

Third: Leather – That leather coat she’s always wanted with roses tucked in the lapel

Fourth: Fruit or Flowers – Have a picture framer create a collage from her wedding bouquet

Fifth: Wood – how about a miniature of a house that you both have been planning

Sixth: Candy or Iron – this is the candy one guys! Go for the gold and get the best, have it delivered with a white long stemmed rose.

Seventh: Wool or Copper - one of the wonderful copper music boxes may just do the trick

Eight Bronze – bronze roses would be in order here and are quite beautiful today

Ninth: Pottery – how about a day trip together to local artists studios, purchase her most desired object.

Tenth: Tin – a Tahitian tin cup pearl necklace will fit the bill for this year delivered during a romantic dinner together

Eleventh: Steel - believe it or not, there are simple, gorgeous steel tulips available for just this occasion

Twelfth: Silk or Linen – see the article

Thirteenth: Lace – and in keeping with your twelfth, continue using the romance theme from the article

Are you getting the thread here? It’s all about the beginning and the life that you are building together. THE ROMANCE IS ABOUT THE EXPERIENCE you put together for her sake.

You're on your own now but to help, here’s the rest of the list. Don’t be a statistic! Keep your lady feeling like a princess…

Fourteenth: Ivory

Fifteenth: Crystal

Twentieth: China

Twenty-Fifth: Silver

Thirtieth: Pearls

Thirty-Fifth: Coral

Fortieth: Ruby

Forty-Fifth: Sapphire

Fiftieth: Gold

Fifty-Fifth: Emerald

Sixtieth: Diamond

Go for it – “You are the man” and she’s going to be thrilled with your efforts!!!

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